Care

When Mom Gets Dementia, Who Picks Up Her Mental Load?

You need to see what gets juggled to know what needs catching. That’s why it’s women, once again, who become the default when things fall apart.

by Molly Dickens

It Took Getting in Over My Head to Really Understand Caregiving

I thought caring for my elderly mom would be like a vacation. That’s not exactly how it turned out.

by Brigid Schulte

When Immigrant Caregivers Disappear

Immigrant enforcement tactics have driven many caregivers into hiding or out of the U.S. altogether. The ripple effects on parents are enormous.

by Cristina Tudino

Mourning the Mother You Wish You’d Had

The day after my mom’s death, I dove into writing her eulogy. But why was I was putting myself through the painful rite? For healing? For hurting? To have the last word in a lifelong contest with my mother?

by Meredith Maran

When It Comes to Caregiving, Acknowledge the Overwhelm

A completely candid, unapologetic conversation about caring for elder parents. You’re welcome.

by MP Dunleavey

'Disoriented and Not Fully Present'—What to Do When Grief Takes Over

When you're in the fog of grief, you need someone else to make the rules.

by Tanya Mozias

'Quite Looking Forward to Going Mad With Grief'

A dying father. A world awash in Covid. A total loss of control. And a mind that refuses to snap.

by Megan Clement